The power of letting go is a form of strength that’s based on sophistication rather than force. We can approach life more intelligently, more efficiently, and go with the flow, “effortless action” (or the paradoxical “action of non-action”) rather than swimming against it.
If you learn to let go, your life will take off.
When you let go, you live intuitively. Everything flows, because you are no longer attached to things being a certain way, to being a certain person or always being right. What a relief. The irony is that when you feel stuck in any area of your life - career, relationships, purpose, health or money - letting go can seem very hard. You cling on for dear life just at the moment you need to take the leap.
Letting go of your fear! This is how you make friends with it.
What is your fear that has been with you for a long time? How do you face it? How does it face you? Does it make you small and limit you? Only if you allow yourself to make friends with your fear, you can really let go of it and transform it. We would like to give you some valuable tips on how you can learn to stop being afraid of fear. Yes - and how you can even embrace it!
What causes fear?
What causes anxiety - the saying "making a mountain out of a molehill" fits this: When stuck in the elevator, one person becomes minimally nervous and is already looking for solution strategies. The other person totally panics and can't think straight. Why? Because each of us has collected different associations with fear in our lives.
There may have been a single situation in early childhood where you first felt the feeling that is now catching up with you in the stuck elevator: powerlessness, loss of control, being alone.... And this feeling "comes over you" again and again in special, challenging situations in your life. In other words: the situation from that time is still in your bones in the truest sense of the word. That's why fear has such an effect on us. Because your system has stored the experience and the associated feeling deep inside you. Therefore - look forward all the more to suggestions for solutions, how you can let go of your fears more and more.
Feel free to reflect on yourself: When you're afraid of something, how do you act? Do you hide, flee or go into battle?
Let go: Get to know your fears
For example, if you're afraid to show up and do your thing because you've failed before or others might laugh at you, there are two options: Avoid the fear by inventing all sorts of reasons and culprits that prevent you from doing your thing. Or you can let go of your fear, even get to know it. And then go your way.
What situations put you in fear? Is it just the idea that something could happen? Like getting sick with Corona. Or losing your job or partner? What kind of feeling can you perceive in your body now?
How do I get to know my fears?
The moment you become aware of your fear, it already loses some of its power. If you feel your fear more and more intensely without resistance, the blocked fear can be released and you no longer have to avoid it in this life. Dare to feel more into the pain behind it.
At this point, ask yourself the question: How do I already know this pain? When did I experience it for the first time? Maybe a situation or an image from childhood comes to mind. Maybe you even find beliefs that you have manifested for yourself in this situation. Meditations help, by the way, to let such inner images arise. Look forward to the following phenomenon: The moment you give up resistance and let go, everything in you becomes soft.
How to make friends with your fears
So how do you make friends with your fear now? The best way to get to know it is to look at it. Most of the time, fear - seen as a survival instinct - only wants your best: it wants nothing to happen to you. Or that an old, negative experience doesn't happen to you again. So take your fear by the hand. Show it how beautiful and colorful life can be. Because it's allowed to be there. But it should not hinder you any further.
5 tips to let go of your fears
Maybe the following five tips will help you to become more and more comfortable with your fear and to let it go.
- Feel your wounds
Allow yourself to feel your anger, and all your other feelings as well. They are an expression of your life instinct, they seek the good and the just. Your anger pulls you out of your stupor. If you like, shout it out and hit a pillow. Give yourself consciously to your sadness for once, so that it can finally go.
- Be your best friend
Whoever hurt you then can't hurt you now. You're a strong, mature person now. Embrace your younger self. Build yourself up like a loving mom or good friends would. Give yourself some good advice. How would you be living if none of this had happened?
- Use your power for yourself
When you are in resistance, you are always fighting with yourself and losing your energy. Rather use your power for yourself. Go out and live your life! Other people have no more power over you! You are free!
As long as we focus on our wounds, we circle around what went wrong. When you look forward again, look closely: What opportunities are available to you now? What do you still want to experience? New results will only come if you move on instead of getting stuck in the pain.
- Find new confidence
All our feelings and strengths come from our vulnerability. Also our creativity and the will to engage in something new. Have the courage to be vulnerable! Believe in your self-healing powers. No matter what comes: You trust your power!
Forgiveness reconnects you with love
Forgiveness is the key to reconnecting with your inner child, healing old wounds and living love. "Forgiveness was and is also a big theme in my own life and has given me back so much joy and creativity," shares Laura Malina Seile quite frankly. The author of May You Be Happy even says, "My most valuable takeaway from this is that forgiveness is the only way to reconnect you with love."
In relation to our topic "Letting go of fears" this means: Perhaps there were key people in the situation at that time who caused you fear or triggered it in you. There is a beautiful exercise that we would like to share with you:
Exercise
Close your eyes.
Make yourself comfortable on a chair. Feel your feet under the floor. Think of the person who was involved in the situation. Can you see her in your mind's eye? Then connect with them: let all your compassion flow to them and say to the person, "I forgive you. I forgive you and I ask that you forgive me too. For I am a part of you and you are a part of me."
Now imagine how the other person will say those two sentences to you as well.
Thank the person who is standing in front of you. Maybe you can hug the person now.
The moment you forgive, you are free and give your power back to yourself. And your fear becomes smaller and smaller and smaller...
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